Der Vorgang 17317
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Svitlana
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Good Evening Olaf, it`s Di.
I could not write earlier. Lots of work. What about you? I m happy to have your e mail and interested to know more about you)) First of all, I want to say that, I`ve never had an experience in correspondence with a man in the internet. So I m speaking from my heart & I`m honest with you that I`m really looking for a true love and serious relations. Okey, now i want to introduce myself. My real name it`s Svitlana. Nice meeting you:) Di - my NICKNAME. Only friends name me so. I`am 27 years old. I`m working as the Dentist and I`m probably a workaholic. This is probably why I`ve never been married and I`ve no children. Nevertheless, i like to do different kinds of sport: swimming, aerobics and running. I visit the gym two times a week. (Every tuesday and thursday). You do sports in your life now? I live in an apartment belonging to my parents. Where do you live now? Tell me about something interesting, you like to do? May be it`ll be your hobby and interests? I have sent you my picture. I hope you`ll like it:-)) I`ll talk about everything else later. Now I`ll be waiting for your email and your photos;-) What are you doing this weekend? Have a happy day. With best wishes, Svitlana. |
Good Evening Olaf.
Olaf - How is your mood? I feel great! )) My cell phone was damaged and is now under repair. Therefore, while we can only talk here. I really hope that he will be repaired soon. Nevertheless, I`m really very pleased to get your e-mail. It helps me to know more about you and to understand you much better. It`s always pleasant when someone shows interest to you. And especially when it`s through such an unusual way as internet. However I`ll use this chance to know more about a person writing me. It is generally accepted that, to tell many good words about yourself is not very modest, however I`ll try, by nature, I`m kind, cheerful, patient, caring modest and sometimes serious. My friends say I`m reliable and honest. As for my interests learning foreign languages, travelling, interested art, visiting museums & playing sport. Moreover, I think I am slimsensual and beautiful. :)) Nevertheless, I`m a single lady. And I want to be sincere with you. It doesn`t matter to me of what age my man will be. The main thing is he has to be mature, wise and ready for serious relationship. After all, I want to find warm, hard working, confident, honest, caring, tender and romantic person who is searching for true love-(a real-relationship). Which will lead to marriage and family. Besides, my idea of happiness is sharing my life with my beloved, to walk down the path of life arm to arm with him, to enjoy many things that life offers with him. What`s happiness for you? What your private life now, please tell me about it? Excuse me Olaf, for asking such person things with me, person whom you know only a couple of days. But it`s interesting for me to know it about you, and please send me more photos. Now I should go. I`ll write to you later. See you later. See you around. With thoughts of you, Svitlana. |
I write you again, Olaf.
I`ve only good intentions and I haven`t any secrets. Therefore you need to know. I was born and I live in an average part of Ukraine in city Khmilnyk, Vinnytska areas, street Dekabristov street 13 - 12, postcode 22000. And I am going to come to your country. In this pandemic (coronavirusa). I lost my job (Dentist). However, I am a doctor by profession. And its not a secret to anyone that now every country needs doctors. Therefore, in the middle of november, I`ve addressed the agency "MariaRose", with the request of searching some work for me in your country. Lastly, two weeks ago my agent has informed me that agency has found an appropriate work for me. I`ll work in the usual assistant in hospital.Since january, till june. (six months) However, in the future, I plan to stay in your country and work in my specialty. (Dentist) In short, agency helps me with my documents. So, I decided to try my luck and began searching of a good friend from your country :)) Besides, before starting my work, i want to come to your city. I want to see you. For the best acquaintance ;-) Sure, if you don`t mind? Then, I`ll try to find my work in a place closest to your city. For example in your city. And to tell the truth, I understand english badly. So please forgive me in advance, if I won`t be able to answer some of your questions. I don`t have home internet. So I write and send messages to you from internet cafe, and sometimes from my friend Rita Hence, I can`t use viber, skype or facebook. Moreover, my internet knowledges aren`t so good. Nonetheless, I want to know everything about you and send more photos to me. By the way, I don`t know your closest airport? Olaf, And can you give me your phone? This weekend. I`m going to visit my grandmother. Therefore, I`ve to go. You have a blessed weekend. With thoughts of you, Svitlana. |
Goood morning My dear Olaf.
How have you been? I`d a very quiet weekend. I hope you`d a good weekend? Nice to hear back from you. I like to talk with you. Every day we`ll learn more about each other and it`s an interesting :-)) I share your thoughts and I hope that I`ve qualities you`re searching for in a woman. I know, that friendship-(love, marriage, children) and especially family are very important. To build up a longterm relationship takes often time. Everything can only be good with us after some meetings. That`s why we`ve to meet and to get acquainted )) I`ll have four or five days of a free time, prior to the beginning of work. I believe it`ll be wonderful if we`ll spend some time together. This meeting will make our relations stronger and will help us to know more about each other. Do you agree with me? It goes without saying all expenses are on my route. I`ll pay everything by myself. And If everything will be according to plan I`ll arrive to you approximately the end of december. I`ll ask my future working company to give me an advance payment (300-700 euro) for renting a flat. Incidentally, do you know how much is to rent a room in your city? I have a pictures to send you I hope you`ll like it. The first photo is my evening selfie. The second picture of my work. And today I decided to send you my video. I`ll end my letter for now and will write you one more letter a bit later. Have a great day. Yours truly, Svitlana. |
Hi again, my dear Olaf.
I`d some free time and I decided to write you again. I want sincere and true love. When you see your half and know his thoughts...it puts a smile on your face because of joy and happiness. That each moment away from each other is a bitter-sweet pain that also gives You comfort that you know whatever happened during the day will want to be experienced by the other. Furthermore children deserve a happy home one that is built upon love and respect of the parents for each other, and one that is built upon experiencing all of lifes wonders through and with the children. I`m sure that it`s possible to have such a life with the right person. Most important thing person must want the same thing. You appear to be a sincere man who can devote the time and energy in making such a life a reality. I think that all the happiness and contentment I need in life is to make sure that a special someone in my life is happy. But I haven`t met this person yet. Could it be you? Yes, I believe it could be. I`m a true romantic, and as long as I`m treated with dignity and respect, remain so. Despite, I`ve a pain in my heart from past relationship. I don`t want to experience it again. That is why it`s most important to have a relationship built on respect and friendship. Moreover, I feel myself closer and closer to you wiw letter we write to each other. I know that we`re from different countries and have different style of life. but I think nothing must be allowed to interfere with our plans for the happy future together! And of course I`d like to know your opinion about it. What don`t you like in your partner? What qualities must your partner have? I want to inform you that my work visa will be ready tomorrow. Tomorrow at the agency, they should also give me permission to enter your country. Incidentally we`ve no no an International airport in our town, the nearest one is in Kiev. Therefore my flight will be from Kiev. Actually I wish to find out you better. Tell me more about yourself. And don`t forget to send your photos. Now I`ve to go, complete my affairs. Have a good time. Best wishes, Svitlana. |
Goood evening my dear Olaf!
How are you? Thank you very much for your attention and care. You`re so sweet to me, it is so pleasant for me to read your letters, I`m in a hurry to say you, I`ve received working visa and permission enter in your country, for six months. Now my agent will make last registration of all documents. And soon everything will be ready for my travel to you. Oh, I looked at the prices for renting an apartment. They are not cheap for me. However, I`ve decided, that I`ll rent an apartment. Frankly speaking, I`ve never met a man like you. You`re genuinely different from the rest and I`m loving it! I`m looking forward for the day when I meet someone with the same strong desire as I have to build a happy share life. How do you imagine your ideal woman? My ideal man is one who isn`t afraid of telling his thoughts, sharing his inner world, and having a strong desire to be with me and not with someone else. Also I want him to enjoy my wishes and passions in life and I`ll enjoy his desires too. I believe in relations when both can share responsibilities in everything. Do you agree with me? By the way I`ve told my friends and my parents, that i have got acquainted with you. They`re all impressed )) Now I should go. Soon you`ll be getting more photos of me, and I hope to get many of you too. I love to know more about you. Have a Spectacular day. Sincerely, Svitlana. |
Hello again, my dear Olaf.
And I still have some questions! I hope you`re not against :)) Olaf, tell me more about your family. Do you`ve many relatives., how often do you meet? In my opinion, I`ve a very good family. We`ve very close relations in my family. I love both my mum and my daddy, I am the only child in my family And i was always dreaming about younger brother or sister that them to look after. ) But I only really have two sisters (cousins). One of which I do not see often. As I`ve already told you, I live separately in a comfortable apartment, belonging to my mum and daddy. They live not so far from me and we meet very often. My parents are very good, careful and kind people, they always understand me a lot. They love me so much and I love them more... My daddy`s name is Aleksey. He`s strict, but fair man. My father, works as a manager. The firm in which he works is engaged in manufacturing of ceramics. In our region a lot of natural raw material for this manufacture. My mum`s name is Lidiya, she`s a very sensual and kind woman. Earlier she worked as a children`s doctor but now she doesn`t work. My grandfather, who was a war veteran, taught me to be honorable and truthful. But he died not so long ago. Now about my grandmother. My loving grandmother. I love her so. She lives nearby in suburb. I often visit her. My grandmother is very kind and fair. I love my family very much we frequently spend time together. Do you like evenings with your family? I love to spend holidays with my parents very much when we gather together at the table. Where do you usually go on holiday? And what are you doing in january? Incidentally in this letter, I am sending you, my family pictures. Photo of my relatives, (My dad, my mom, my grandmother, my grandfather, my aunt, me and my cousina). Can I see photos of your parents and your new photos? Now I`ll be waiting for your letter very impatiently my dear. :)) Have a good time. Cordially yours, Svitlana. |
Goood day my dear Olaf!
I didn`t get your reply. Is everything ok with you? I feel lonely without your letters. How are you today? I hope, that everything is good! I confess, I feel so comfortable around you! You seem to me very interesting person Olaf. I hope you feel the same about me ;) If you do I`m the happiest person. I know it seems difficult enough to learn people through letters. But when, we`ll have personal meeting. I think we`ll have enough time for everything. We will know each other much closer. Do you agree with me?? I am a very cheerful and kind person and I always organize something interesting for me and my friends. I like to help them to make life interesting. It can be different things: dances, cinema, parties or outdoor entertainments. At the same time Id like to remind you that I`m a very romantic nature. But frankly speaking..all these entertainments don`t bring too much joy in last time. I`m always dreaming about romantic evening with my dare person..no matter I`ll be dinner and just a walk outside. I think there`s something charming in it. What do you think about it? Olaf, do you have any ideas about our relations? Feel free to write me more about your feelings and wishes. I always like to read your lines. You inspire me! Furthermore It would be interesting to know what is main values in your life: family, work, money or something another? What do you appreciate in relationship? Tell me please about it, I`m very curious. As for me, I appretiate honesty, understanding And absolute trust each other in relations. I don`t accept lie. Today I wished to send you a photo. But unfortunately, I don`t have picture on this computer in internet cafe so I`ll send some photo later. I`ve to leave now. Have a Good time. Kind regards, Svitlana. |
Hi again, my dear Olaf, I hope that everything is ok with you.
Today, I`m full of energy. I`ve already cleaned my home up ;)) I`ve to admit that I adore cleanliness in the house. Do you love cleanliness? How often, do you clean your house? May be I do it too often? Joke! :-)) lol :) One evening, my friend Rita and i rode a bicycle. That evening, we drove about 12 kilometers. We are very tired. However, at sunset, it turned out a very beautiful photo. I think you will like it too, this photo. You will find it in the letter, along with a short video for you. Plus a photo of my favorite salad Olivier;-)) Well, now, I`ve to prepare for a family dinner. My grandmother feels herself not so good today..so, I`ll cook the dinner. By the way, dear, what food do you like most of all? Do you prefer meat or fish? Tell it to me, Olaf. I can be a good adviser in the kitchen.. My grandmother took care about it many years ago. You may be sure in it in some time. I easily make various salads, soups, and also game and a fish. As for my tastes, I like fish and fruits such as kiwi, bananas, pineapples and melons. Today I`ve to cook chinese chicken and vegetable salad. I think, Olaf you like tasty food too? We`ve proverb; The way to heart of the man - passes through his stomach! I was sure in it many times looking at my father. Therefore I`ve to reach your heart using my cooking knoledges. It is a joke!!! lol ) Okey, I`ve to go to the kitchen already. I hope that daddy will be pleased today ;)) Tell me more about your things at home? Please don`t forget to send your new photos! Have a wonderful day. All the best, Svitlana. |
Goood day Olaf. How are u getting on???
It is upset because of that you don t write me, Therefore Ive decided to write to you, I wait for your mail, my dear. Yours, Svitlana. |
Good morning my darling Olaf.
How are you? Nice to hear from you. Therefore I`ve remarkable mood. I hope that your mood is good too ;-)) By the way, the family dinner was great. Everyone was satisfied. Maybe near future we can share a romantic meal with candles. What do you think? lol ;)) I`m glad Olaf, that in our relations there`s a promotion and we became more close people. Our Correspondence means too much for me. I`m afraid to think on before, but I want you to know that it`s very serious for me. Moreover, you inspire me! I think when we spend some time together, it`ll be good for us and for our relations. If everything is good with us, I`ll prolong my visa much longer. As soon as I`ll book air tickets in agency I`ll immediately inform you the date of my flight. Nevertheless, before booking tickets. Tell me the dates when it will be convenient for you to meet with me? Also, please send, all your information. Your nearest airport? And your exact address is desirable, it will only be for me and my parents. House phone, working phone and is desirable a mobile phone? I`ve to be sure that I can contact you. Check everything carefully! In order to avoid errors. It is important! After receiving your phone number, I will try to call you ) In this letter i send you some photos and just for you, posting my video. I hope you`ll like them. See you around. See you later. With thoughts of you Olaf, yours Svitlana. |
I`ve decided to write you again.
You know I`m not looking for some adventures, I`m very serious of seeking one to live my further life with. For some people this way of matching is very strange and not worth any commitments. Therefore I`m a very honest and sincere person. I guess even if we`ve a lot of different views on life, it`s normal and very interesting. Because Love is the most important thing in this world and I`ll do everything for love! I believe that even if you have an expensive car, a modern house or may be two, a big white yacht it`ll never bring you a happiness if you haven`t a beloved person with whom you can share all this! Do you agree with me? Of course I wish to have a nice house, car and much money for my own needs. It would be great. But I think my happiness is more important and I don`t want to be safer for all my life with man who can give me money but can`t give me love! I don`t need money, I don`t need great house or material things, all I wish is love, happiness and passion with my beloved man who will always support me and understand. You know, I`m looking for a man who will love me the way I`m. Who will understand me from half a word and sometimes from half a thought. I`m ready to give the whole me to my man. He`s to be strong and sensitive at the same time. He`s to accept all my weaknesses because I`m a woman and I`m the most tender creation which needs him. I do think that you`re the same! I hope you`re not against of me being so opened with you? Whatareyourplansforthisweekend? Have a good time. With thoughts of you, Svitlana. |
Good evening my dearest Olaf!
I don`t receive your letters. I begin to worry. what`s wrong? How you my darling? I hope you`ve had a great weekend? I`ve a talk at the travel agency today. They told me that it`s difficult to get some documents, but they can help me with it. Unfortunately the travel agent hadn`t so much time to talk to me in details, because he`d to go to the assembly. And consequently he has postponed my conversation. Soon I meet him and I`ll discuss again. I hope, honey, everything will be good. I`ve some excitement concerning all it. I miss you so much, I`ll write to you later. Hope to see you again. Hope we can meet soon, yours Svitlana. |
Olaf - you will be my man
And so I want to open my soul to you. My darling, you are now in my heart, my soul, my dreams and my thoughts. There is a big change in me since I have been writing you. I`m more happier now and smiling. My mood is much better. My feelings and deep desire for you honey are very strong. I feel like I want you even more. There are still something that I haven`t told you me. That i like all kinds of movies. Like romantic comedy, drama, comedy, sci fi, subspence, horror movies. I also like all kinds of television programs too. I just can`t wait to start watching tv and movies together. Sleep in the same bed together, eat at the same table, comes cook together in the same kitchen and of course take bath and showers together. Are you ready for all of this? I hope so. Living together is going to be big test for us. To see if we are compatible with one another. Our future will start once we meet each other in person at the airport. Our friendship will change once we kiss each other And we have our first night of physical attraction. I just can`t wait for our first night together. We will create a wonderful life together. Especially for you, I attach my favorite video. The video was made this summer, outside the city, in nature. My parents had a little picnic.The weather was lovely and sunny. I think you will like my video. Well sweet I`ll close now. It is time for me to go bed at get some sleep, So I can wake up in the morning. Good bye for now. Sincerely yours, Svitlana. |
My dearest Olaf.
I`ve met my travel agent again today. He`s explained me a situation why there were complexities. Recently, your government has made more strict control over entrance to the country, because of coronavirus and consequently it`ll be more difficult, for arrival to you. But the agency will make it for me, for a surcharged. The agent told me that they`ve already got some workplaces. Nonetheless, as soon as I arrive in your country. Will pass, the distribution of jobs by city. Of course, I`ll insist that I would stay in your city. My agent said that he would help me with this too. However, he again asked for an additional payment for this. So, everything turned out to be much more complicated than I expected. And please inform your nearest airport. To the agent was able to create a route for me. Today I`ve already paid the part of money to the agent. I`ve some money and I took some from my parents, but i think they won`t be able to pay the other half of the payment. Dear Olaf, will it be possible if I ask you to help me, with a small amount money, to pay the second part of travel? Though, all will be known, only after the agent will develop a route. I`ll inform you Olaf, if it`s necessary to help me. Nevertheless, I hope that this is not required. Now I go to have a rest, I`m very tired today. See you around. Respectfully yours, Svitlana. |
Hi my sweetheart Olaf!
Nice to see you. How are you? I hope you are having a beautiful day. I`ve got your letter. Thank you very for your honesty. I understand everything. Nevertheless, I must give you the news. Olaf, Today I met with the agent again. He`s compiled a route and calculated payment for me, it`ll be 1400,60 euro. Into it enters: flight from Ukraine Kiev, up to your city, roundtrip, 2 air tickets, it about 851,10 euro. plus aviation and service gathering 138,30 euro,insurance 144.20 euro, and services of agency of travel 127,30 euro. I`ve still remained money, plus last money of my parents. It about 460 euro, and again I paid to agent part of money (it =409.80 euro), paid for aviation and service gathering, insurance, services of agency "MariaRose". I`ve put the receipt in the letter. I have only to pay the second part of the cost of the trip. It`s 990 euro. This includes, air tickets 851,10 euro. Railway ticket to Kiev, 28,40 euro. Hotel in Kiev, for three days, 111,30 euro. Payment must be made within 8-9 days, till 25 december. My parents said that they have no more money. Therefore, honey I feel a little awkward because I want to ask you for help. With payment of the remaining amount. And if you agree to help is it`ll be simply wonderful. I always counted myself the independent person, which can solve all problems itself. But this time I couldn`t take into account and was mistaken that I can pay all travel myself. Now I feel simply the woman who requires support. However, If you find it difficult, or there is no possibility. Don t be mad at me, please. I don`t want to cause you unnecessary difficulties. I hope you understand me. I hope, what i can soon embrace you. Gently kiss you. Sincerely yours Svitlana. |
Hi again my beloved Olaf.
I`m glad to write to you again! I think a lot about you. You know Olaf, I need to tell you something. I`ve never thought before that this is possible to find a very good friend, somebody special with the help of Internet. But now I can say that this happened to me, Ive met you and it seems to me like I know you for a long time. Now I can say that there`s a person in the world who understands me, my life position, whose dreams and intentions are close to mine. You should know that you`re dear to my heart, I`m always ready to listen, understand and try to help you if you need that. Of course, you already know that, money isn`t the main goal in my lives. Nonetheless, now the money is needed in order for us to be together, I really like you so much and i don`t want lose you. But i know my situation and i don`t know if you will give up. Ok, I`m finishing my letter now and I`ll be looking forward to your reply Olaf!!! I am thinking about you! With tender hugs and kisses, yours Svitlana. |
My lovely Olaf,
I didn`t receive your letter. You`ve forgotten about me? What`s up? My honey Olaf, I think that there`s something between us that make me trust you and open my heart for you, I`d like to give you my full trust because I see in your letters how sincere and serious you`re towards me. My parents are pleased, that I`ll meet you. They`re glad, that I at last have met the person to whom I`ve big respect and serious intentions. My daddy always spoke me,that the man in relations mainer and, that the woman should listen to him always. And I always argued with him concerning it. During those moments of the life when I`d relations with the person, I always tried to be the leader in these relations. But with you Olaf, I feel, that all differently. I`d like to be obedient and gentle to to you. Probably mine the daddy of the rights when speaks, that the main instinct of the woman, it to be near to the man and to be obedient to him. he speaks, that the woman can be happy, only if lives thus. I`ve such opinion to you, for the first time and consequently I think of it much. I think, probably the destiny not casually acquainted me with you! I decided to call you from post office. Although to call in your country is very expensive. Nevertheless I want to hear your voice. Besides it seems to me that our relationship will develop faster, If we talk on the phone. Tell your phone number? When I better call you? At what time? What do you think about it? Now I look forward to hearing back from you soon. My gentle kisses! Affectionately Svitlana. |
Good morning my dear Svetlana, it was late morning, and I was putting up a fresh pot of coffee when I heard the first meow. It sounded awfully close, as if from inside the apartment instead of the backyard one story down. Then I heard it again, and there was no doubt.
WTF?!! I texted my roommate. You got a cat?! I’d made it clear when she moved in: no pets. “But I want a kitty so bad,� she said a couple weeks later. I suffer from allergies � through spring and summer I have a persistent itch in my nostrils, and the lightest bit of pollen or dander or even a freshly mowed lawn sets off sneezing spells that leave my entire body sore. I was also concerned about the smell. And besides, the landlord forbade pets. It’s a friend’s, Jenny texted back. I’m only taking care of it for a few months. Don’t give me that bullshit, I keyed my reply, then backspaced over it, reconsidering. I have a tendency to overreact, to exacerbate conflict. Instead I went for calm and firm, and maybe slightly paternal. We need to talk. Later that afternoon, in the kitchen between our bedrooms, we talked, leaning on opposite counters. Jenny (not her real name) kept her eyes downcast, and when I told her she was being inconsiderate and disrespectful and this was not the way grown-ups behaved, she said, “I know. I’m sorry.� I’d expected an argument, but her posture was one of submission, as if I was her dad, or a schoolteacher. But I wasn’t her dad, and she was an adult woman, even if I was twice her age. I was left somewhat unsettled. In the end, I told her she could keep the cat, but she better take care of it properly. “Thanks for not being hard on me,� she said, before disappearing back into her room. “I thought you were going to kick me out or something.� That conversation was the longest we’d ever had. We were unlikely roommates, a Craigslist arrangement: I, a near-middle-aged man, several years divorced, with adolescent children of my own. She, a twenty-year-old recent college grad. We were living in Gravesend, an unremarkable neighborhood in a remote part of Brooklyn, where restaurants, bars and coffee shops are scarce, and when the friend I’d been living with moved out, finding a new roommate wasn’t easy. At first, I had a parade of eccentrics, men who seemed to have something to hide, smelling of whiskey, with slurred speech, crooked teeth, telling me about jobs as investment bankers or corporate accountants, claims I found dubious. One man, a flashy young Georgian, took one look at the room and grew alarmingly aggressive as he tried to force his cash deposit into my hand, even after I explained that I wasn’t ready to make a decision just yet. He left just as I was about to call the cops. So when Jenny showed up, I was inclined to like her. She looked like a typical post-college young woman: hair dyed reddish-blond, large earmuff headphones over her ears. She walked with a kind of childish languor, as if it hadn’t fully settled in that she was an adult. Her speech tended to the monosyllabic. I showed her the room. “Sweet,� she said. I showed her the bathroom. “Sweet.� Then she asked what she needed for moving in, and I told her: proof of employment, credit report, rent plus security deposit. “Sweet,� she said. I assumed this meant she had all those things, and at first, it appeared that she did. She told me she worked two jobs, as a clerk in a stationary store in Midtown Manhattan and as an art-school model. Several days later, she brought documents attesting to her claims, and it all seemed to check out. She moved in a couple weeks later, with the help of her dad, whom I found affable in a way that put me further at ease. Some time after she moved in, I met her boyfriend, who seemed about my age. “He’s an artist,� she told me afterward, unsolicited, as if that explained something. I did have some mild concerns. I wondered why she would choose to live here � a part of town where she had no friends or family � and with me, a man twice her age. But I needed a roommate, and for the most part, she matched my criteria: stable enough to pay rent, normal enough not to stab me with a kitchen knife or steal my meager possessions. She wanted to be a writer and filmmaker, she said, and was hoping to get into NYU’s film school for graduate studies. There was something familiar about her, almost bland, like an unremarkable extra who might appear repeatedly in so many movies, which meant she was safe and normal and predictable � exactly what I needed if I was to share my home with a stranger. It was soon after the cat incident that I began to notice she was home more. In fact, she rarely seemed to leave her room. On days I worked from home, I’d hear her throughout the day, in short bursts of action � the turning of the microwave at ten, the fridge opening and closing at eleven, the doorbell with her lunch order at noon. It didn’t bother me; I barely caught glimpses of her. If she’d lost her jobs, it didn’t show so far: She was always on time with rent, and she appeared to have enough money to buy groceries and order in meals. But I wondered, if she wasn’t going to work, how was she supporting herself? One afternoon, a couple weeks after Jenny took in the cat, I heard her voice and then a male voice I did not recognize. It was definitely not her boyfriend, whose voice was high-pitched; this one was deep, almost gruff. I was in my room, working, and I heard someone enter the bathroom, and then the toilet flush, and so I opened my door a crack for a glance. In the hallway, emerging from the bathroom, was a short, squat man, gray-haired with a bald temple. The man disappeared into Jenny’s room across the hall, and I felt a rush in my brain and gave an involuntary gasp. There weren’t too many scenarios for why a young woman would be entertaining a vaguely Soviet-looking gentleman who looked to be about her father’s age. I felt a kind of indescribable rage, almost like a personal affront. How dare she � in my home?! An hour later, I watched her escort the man to the door. She was wearing blue suede pumps and a very short, ivory-colored dress, somewhat crumpled, as if she’d just removed it from under a pile of laundry. She appeared to be going for a sultry, long-legged look, but she looked instead like a little girl wearing her mother’s discarded clothes. I felt instantly sad for her, and part of me wondered if I shouldn’t offer to help her somehow. Another part of me was so angry I wanted to evict her immediately. The rest of the day, I wrestled with my thoughts, my mind feverish with indecision: Should I say something? Should I tell her boyfriend? Should I call her dad? Was it any of my business anyway? I decided to wait, see if it happened again, and just a few days later, it did. This time, it was a tall black man wearing an ill-fitting suit and tie, like thrift-shop formalwear. He, too, emerged from the bathroom and disappeared into her room, and after an hour or so she escorted him to the door, again in the blue pumps and rumpled ivory dress. I took to Google: What to do if my roommate is a prostitute? More than what to do, I was seeking clarity on why it bothered me. Who was I to judge if Jenny chose an unorthodox profession? Why would I care if she used her room to ply her trade? Still, I couldn’t stomach the thought, and the Internet validated my discomfort. On Yahoo Answers and in Google Groups and various other forums people wrote about similar experiences, and the consensus was: Don’t let your roommate turn tricks within your home. It’s dangerous, it’s illegal, and it can bring nothing but trouble. I wondered about the practical aspects of her work: Does she have a Backpage ad? Did she use Craigslist? Could I find her on The Erotic Review? I imagined the conversation we’d have. “This isn’t a brothel!� I wanted to yell at her. “Where do you even find these guys?� Then I reconsidered, thinking I might speak to her in a more caring way. Sit her down for a talk. Maybe get some women’s organization involved. Point her in the right direction. Rescue her. Olaf |
Olaf, my favourite
I write you again message, to tell to you. That i can`t express my feelings to you, Nevertheless if we meet you`ll see everything in my eyes, my joy, my happiness. Honey, i imagine our meeting, Id like you to know how much you mean to me, I`m really happy that I`ve met you! My sunshine, you know, I`d like to tell you that you`ve changed my life a lot, you`re always in my thoughts. I`m sure that we`ve met because God helped us, this is His present for us. You know, Olaf, I`m already afraid to lose you, lose our special connection that we`ve for now, I don`t know how my life is going to be without you, I can`t imagine it now. You`ve brought me so much joy and happiness, I trust you completely! I opened my heart to you and Id really like our relationships to be forever like it`s now, Like we`re in the wonderful sweet dream. I look forward to hearing back from you. Take care of yourself. Always yours Svitlana. |
Hello my dear Svitlana, Ramnath Bhuyan is a 33-year-old gynaecologist in a small town 50 km from Guwahati. He returned home after stints in cities like Delhi and Mumbai (where people hardly visit male gynaecologists, he says), and a mostly rural set up in Sholapur .
When he came back home to work in his small town, he began to deal largely with infertility cases, which meant he needed to ask his patients about sex. He tells us about what he has learned about intimate life from his work. A woman once came to me and said she liked being on top while having sex with her husband. But she was worried. Would being on top make it harder for her to get pregnant? She wasn t sure if the semen was going inside her or not - you know, because it seemed like more was coming outside than going in.You d be surprised at how common a question that is, but actually everything that needs to go inside already has. Working as a gynaecologist in a town about 50 kilometres from Guwahati, is very different from working in the city . In cities, women didn t ask me about the technicalities of sex. A pregnant woman or a young woman who has a problem with her period isn t going to tell you about her sex life. Perhaps, they ve done their homework on that front, because they have easy access to that kind of information. Instead, they asked about specific problems - like infections, STDs, or contraception, sometimes even about putting on weight because of contraceptives. Nobody in the city came to me worried they haven t had children yet, only for us to find on repeated questioning that the couple had not had sex at all. In our town near Guwahati, most of the time both husband and wife come to talk to me because they think they re infertile. I say think because once we do the examination and tests we need to, we often find that there s actually nothing wrong. It s at this point that we have to start asking again and again, politely of course, if they are having a problem with intercourse. Then there are some bad cases, when the wife is just 16 years old, and we have to say that she s probably too young to have children. Then there was also a time when a couple came to me saying the husband had a decreased libido. But actually, the husband just preferred porn. What follows in each of these cases is a lot of counselling. One thing that s often common in infertility cases in rural and urban India - men flat out refuse to undergo any tests to check if they re infertile. They say it s all the woman s fault. I know a man who was worked up enough to divorce his wife because they hadn t had kids, but was still refusing to get tested himself. And then in small towns, there are women who have infertility, related to polycystic ovarian syndrome, but their husbands don t want to spend on treatment, so they start having extramarital affairs instead. Information or the lack of it is not always the problem. In many cases, I ve noticed that when couples think they are facing decreased libido or infertility, it s something else altogether. It s that they are having mechanical sex without feelings or intimacy. Sometimes, there s no emotion involved because the couple hardly knows each other. The fact of the matter is that they re unaware of each other and each other s bodies. It s the reason many women, especially the newly married ones, come in with post-coital tears and bleeding, When we see cases like this we tell the couple that they need to talk to each other. As it is, there s very little conversation between them: the man goes off to work in the morning, and when they go to bed at night, the man complains the woman isn t interested, when the case is probably that she s exhausted after a day of cleaning, cooking, washing and looking after the kids. Sometimes, when the woman comes on her own, she says her husband isn t interested when she is. But there is no room for her to tell her husband this. Actually, when women come alone I hear a lot of other questions. (Sometimes, even if they do come with their husbands, they wait till they re alone with me during examination to ask me what they really want to know). The most common complaint from women, something that she can t say to her husband, is the age-old problem - that he always finishes first. This problem as you can imagine, is common in cities too. And very occasionally, a woman will come alone to the doctor if she is having pre-marital sex. These women come because they need contraception, and they can t go to a medical store because everyone will look at them weirdly. I had one bad case, a woman who had had pre-marital sex came to me with an ectopic pregnancy [where a fertilised egg implants outside the uterus]. We had to tell her parents and get permission to do a surgery even though she was over 18, because that is the norm here. It hits me every now and then how different things are here.There are almost no conversations about sex -sometimes young women don t know anything about it until they re suddenly in bed naked with a man.It s no wonder then that couples think the problem is a decreased libido or infertility when it isn t. Everybody, whether they re from a village or a city, needs to be educated about sex. Once that happens, sex might even become more enjoyable -as it should be. Olaf |
Hi my sunshine Olaf,
How are you? Hope that you`ve a wonderful time. Honey, I can`t describe you all of my feelings, the thought that the person like you`ve appeared in my life makes me feel so excited! You`re far from me now, but I feel that my happiness is somewhere near me. I hope that well be happy together. Sweetheart, all I`ve told you is very true, all of my words are coming from my heart and soul! Dear, thoughts overwhelm me, at me there`s a plenty of ideas, how we can spend together our time. Also I`ll prepare for you some surprises I think, you`ll be pleased it. I`ll tell you Olaf, about some ideas in the following messages. When you`ll be in my hugs you can`t get out of my embraces. well... I shan`t write now about that I`ll make with you, but you`ll remember for a long time it! This summer, several times, my parents and I went for a walk outside the city. We had a really good time. Every time we walked a lot and took pictures. I really liked it. I have attached some of our photos. I really hope that in the near future, we will walk together. I also attached one of my videos. Hope you enjoy everything. Have a good day and hope to hear from you soon! My embraces and kisses. Sincerely Svitlana. |
Hi again my honey Olaf,
My dreams, overflow me, I often present as we for the first time see each other. As we carry out together our night. I think, that we won`t sleep this night. I very much want to embrace you and to nestle my body to you. I shall try, that you didn`t forget it never and I hope, That you`ll make too it for me. We`ll make a break only for coffee and sandwiches. Also, lovely, I wanted to take a bath with you. We could rub a back each other and still something. I very much wait this time and I`m glad, That it`s necessary to wait already a little. I often think of things which we can make with each other. I think about it in full details. I don`t write these details to you, my confusion doesn`t allow me to write it. I stop my ideas that there was no big excitation. I`ve good imagination. Even now I`ve some shiver in my body. Well.,well.,well., I stop now this theme in my message. Olaf, I want to prepare a gift for you! I promise you will like;-) Have a beautiful day. Very cordially yours Svitlana. |
Good evening my man Olaf.
I didn`t receive your letter. Dear why you not write to me? What`s up? Lovely, today my friend Rita have her birthday also has invited me on celebration. I haven`t much time, it`s necessary for me to make hairdress and to buy for her a gift. Now it`s time to me to run. Nevertheless I hope to hear back from you sometime soon. My kisses. Yours always Svitlana. |
Hello my dearest Olaf.
I`ve a free time. Therefore has again decided to write to you. I`ve already bought a gift, Rita. The big soft toy. She loves such things. In a soul, she still the child :-) You know Olaf, I`ve told you before that I wanted to find my true love, my soul mate, I think that I am very close to it now. I am very serious about you, there`s only one thing left. Our meeting. This is very important, in my opinion. And this is the best way to learn much more about each other. I`m dreaming about it, about the time we can see each other for the first time, look into each others eyes.... It`s only my dreams for now, but I want all this to come true. Do you Olaf? Ok, now I need to go, tomorrow I`ll wait your letters. Sweet kiss from me :-) You gotplans for the weekend? Have a good time. Always Svitlana. |
My beloved Olaf,
To me it was sad from for that that i have not received from you the letter. I seriously worry that with you that that happened also you cannot write to me the letter. This time lead without you seems to me eternity. I cannot To think about a life without you. That time, that i did not know you it there was only a shadow of me. After our acquaintance i start to sow as the brightest star in all galaxy. My dreams are connected with you, day and night. When I think of you at me is cheered up. Write to me as you can will be released from your borrowed problems. I shall very much wait from you for the mail. See you later. See you around. Cordially yours, Svitlana. |