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Tatyana
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| Salute What mood at you?
I am very happy to hear from you:))) I m sorry I couldn t answer immediately. There was a lot of work. The first letter I wrote to you was from a services, where I received your email. Please don t write there again, I don t have access to it. I am currently writing from my personal(work) email address, where I can start a conversation with you. I will be very glad that you will answer me sooner)) And we will be able to learn more about each other. I have to work now. I will wait for your response and your photo, will respond to you immediately. I ll send you a photo in the next email. I hope you understand and wish you a great day:))) With respect Tatyana. |
| My dear Tatyana, good evening, Ramnath Bhuyan is a 33-year-old gynaecologist in a small town 50 km from Guwahati. He returned home after stints in cities like Delhi and Mumbai (where people hardly visit male gynaecologists, he says), and a mostly rural set up in Sholapur .
When he came back home to work in his small town, he began to deal largely with infertility cases, which meant he needed to ask his patients about sex. He tells us about what he has learned about intimate life from his work. A woman once came to me and said she liked being on top while having sex with her husband. But she was worried. Would being on top make it harder for her to get pregnant? She wasn t sure if the semen was going inside her or not - you know, because it seemed like more was coming outside than going in.You d be surprised at how common a question that is, but actually everything that needs to go inside already has. Working as a gynaecologist in a town about 50 kilometres from Guwahati, is very different from working in the city . In cities, women didn t ask me about the technicalities of sex. A pregnant woman or a young woman who has a problem with her period isn t going to tell you about her sex life. Perhaps, they ve done their homework on that front, because they have easy access to that kind of information. Instead, they asked about specific problems - like infections, STDs, or contraception, sometimes even about putting on weight because of contraceptives. Nobody in the city came to me worried they haven t had children yet, only for us to find on repeated questioning that the couple had not had sex at all. In our town near Guwahati, most of the time both husband and wife come to talk to me because they think they re infertile. I say think because once we do the examination and tests we need to, we often find that there s actually nothing wrong. It s at this point that we have to start asking again and again, politely of course, if they are having a problem with intercourse. Then there are some bad cases, when the wife is just 16 years old, and we have to say that she s probably too young to have children. Then there was also a time when a couple came to me saying the husband had a decreased libido. But actually, the husband just preferred porn. What follows in each of these cases is a lot of counselling. One thing that s often common in infertility cases in rural and urban India - men flat out refuse to undergo any tests to check if they re infertile. They say it s all the woman s fault. I know a man who was worked up enough to divorce his wife because they hadn t had kids, but was still refusing to get tested himself. And then in small towns, there are women who have infertility, related to polycystic ovarian syndrome, but their husbands don t want to spend on treatment, so they start having extramarital affairs instead. Information or the lack of it is not always the problem. In many cases, I ve noticed that when couples think they are facing decreased libido or infertility, it s something else altogether. It s that they are having mechanical sex without feelings or intimacy. Sometimes, there s no emotion involved because the couple hardly knows each other. The fact of the matter is that they re unaware of each other and each other s bodies. It s the reason many women, especially the newly married ones, come in with post-coital tears and bleeding, When we see cases like this we tell the couple that they need to talk to each other. As it is, there s very little conversation between them: the man goes off to work in the morning, and when they go to bed at night, the man complains the woman isn t interested, when the case is probably that she s exhausted after a day of cleaning, cooking, washing and looking after the kids. Sometimes, when the woman comes on her own, she says her husband isn t interested when she is. But there is no room for her to tell her husband this. Actually, when women come alone I hear a lot of other questions. (Sometimes, even if they do come with their husbands, they wait till they re alone with me during examination to ask me what they really want to know). The most common complaint from women, something that she can t say to her husband, is the age-old problem - that he always finishes first. This problem as you can imagine, is common in cities too. And very occasionally, a woman will come alone to the doctor if she is having pre-marital sex. These women come because they need contraception, and they can t go to a medical store because everyone will look at them weirdly. I had one bad case, a woman who had had pre-marital sex came to me with an ectopic pregnancy [where a fertilised egg implants outside the uterus]. We had to tell her parents and get permission to do a surgery even though she was over 18, because that is the norm here. It hits me every now and then how different things are here.There are almost no conversations about sex -sometimes young women don t know anything about it until they re suddenly in bed naked with a man.It s no wonder then that couples think the problem is a decreased libido or infertility when it isn t. Everybody, whether they re from a village or a city, needs to be educated about sex. Once that happens, sex might even become more enjoyable -as it should be. Detlef |
| Salute. Thanks, that you have answered my letter:-)))
Thank you for your beautiful photos. I really liked it. To me it is very pleasant. To tell the truth, I at all do not know from what to begin my letter. If you not against, I tell a little about myself. The thought on acquaintance on the Internet has appeared at me unexpectedly. We with the girlfriend sat in cafe and drank tea. My girlfriend has told, that now acquaintance on the Internet more and more popularly among people and she has got acquainted with the husband on a site of acquaintances, her husband from Denmark. Now they are happy! They are an example for me that it is possible to find the happiness in the Internet. To tell the truth, I very much hesitate and in general I do not know what to write in the letter. I am not registered in social networks as me it never interested! My girlfriend has offered, that I exploited services. We went to the agency and I took up several profiles, but I decided to write to you alone. I do not know, as well as whence they take the information. For me it is the first experience of acquaintance in the Internet. If I girlfriend, I never would dare at this step! But now we can have dialogue. I long did not know as to write to you, but I have decided to make this step. Certainly I am confused a little and in general I do not know what to write in the letter:-) I wish to tell to you at once, that I search in the man. I hope for your decency and respect because I search for love and sincere relations. For me it is important, that the person would be kind, attentive and sympathetic. I think at you there are these qualities. It seems to me, that at us much in common:) I wish to tell about myself that we could get acquainted with each other. I live in Russia, the city Kiselevsk. I never been married and do not have kids! I hope you correctly you understand me and my English language. I learn English from an early age. If you do not understand me, you can take advantage of the translator! You can look at my photo to see my physical data. My growth 172 cm, weight of 54 kgs. I have many interests. I like all new. At me good sense of humour. I think, that in the future you can be convinced of it. I was born on December, 25th, 1987! To me of 32 years. My sign on Zodiac Capricorn. What sign on the Zodiac at you? I will be glad to answer any questions which you interest. It is very interesting to me to learn more about you, about your life, interests and the country in which you live. If to you interestingly our acquaintance I wait for your letter and a photo:-))) With respect Tatyana. |
| Welcome:))
Such a pity there is no message from you. Did you get my last letter? I have sent my letter in which I have said about my hobbies. May be my letter has got in yours spam folder? Look there! I only want to tell you that I think of you and wait for your reply. Please, write me as soon as possible. I am waiting for your reply impatiently:,-) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gK_2XdjOdY Tatyana! |